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This is a guest article from Dan Bainbridge on how to get over your commitment phobia – with ideas ranging from subliminal cds to hypnotherapy, and positive affirmations.

When your partner suggests “let’s take our relationship to the next level” do you start worrying and want to run away? Do you get cold feet at the mere thought of settling down? Do you end relationships with compatible partners because of your commitment fears? If the answer is yes then you probably do suffer from a fear of commitment!

People often disguise their commitment fears, claiming to be “free-spirited”, but what gives them away is their own insecurities. Commitment phobics pretend to be happy with their situation, but deep down they do feel scared, vulnerable and lonely. They fear rejection and hurt, which leads to them rejecting and hurting others before they get the chance to do so. If you can identify with this, perhaps the following tips will help you get over your commitment phobia:

Try hypnotherapy: Sometimes past hurts, such as childhood abuse, a painful break-up, betrayal by a loved one, parent’s divorce (in early childhood) or a loved one’s death can get so deeply entrenched in a person’s subconscious that they start affecting his/her behavior. Hypnotherapy can resolve your issues and release any painful memories you have surrounding these issues. A trained hypnotherapist is able to reprogram your mind so that you can accept new positive ideas about relationships and commitment.

Listen to subliminal messages- Subliminal messages are beyond the perception of the conscious mind but have the power to influence and re-program the subconscious. Subliminal messaging can have a fantastic benefit. They can make you think positively towards your relationship. They will help you to let go of your commitment issues and look forward to a bright future instead of worrying.

Positive affirmations- Repeat positive affirmations like, “I deserve to love and to be loved”, “I welcome loving and kind people into my life” and “I love and appreciate myself the way I am”, to let go of your insecurities about relationships and love.

A relationship can be an amazing thing, don't let your fears run your life and stop you from having something which may bring you much moer happiness in the long run.

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