lonely and desperate

I read an article online the other day that mentioned the engagement of a well known DJ.  The article showed a photo of them together.  My first thought was ’she’s hot’.  But then I looked at the difference between the two of them.  She’s beautiful, he is just an average looking guy.  She’s tall (she is a model), he’s short.  But the way she looked at him in the shot of them together was one of admiration, even lust.

So how do you make yourself attractive to women.  And since we are talking about internet dating, how do you get a beautiful Russian woman to be attracted to you online?

The answer is simple – be a real man.  If a short DJ can do it, then why not you?

Being a ‘man’ when dating face to face is about being an alpha male..  Online it is about showing her you are the man she wants to get to know above everyone else.

Show Interest

Are you the type of guy who fears rejection so you write a tiny first letter and see if she is interested in you before you show real interest in her?  Why?  If you are genuinely interested in her, show it.

Think about this from her perspective for a moment.  In the few weeks after she joins, she will recieve several emails from different men.  Most will describe themselves clearly and show how focused they are on their personal and professional goals.  Your short email will be a whisper in a noisy crowd.  She will answer you if she is very attracted to you, but she might even forget to do this if she is busy replying to the men who put some real effort in.  If you are attracted to this attractive woman, go for it and let her deal with how she feels about you.

Have Your Own Opinions

Showing her you are serious is important to the success of an online romance.  Being a door mat isn’t.  Yet it is incredible the number of guys that will agree with anything a woman says to avoid scaring her off.  Even worse is actually agreeing with what she says to gauge how she feels about an issue.

Act like a man and express what you think.  Be confident with your opinions but receptive enough to understand other people’s perspective.

Don’t Be Too Available

Russian women respect men who take their obligations responsibly. It shows you will be a responsible father and partner who takes care of his family.

You may want to talk to her a lot more, but don’t be the type of guy that puts off a family meal with your parents just so you are always on the net when it is convenient for her and then proudly tell her that.

Now I am not saying you should play hard to get.  What I am saying is that you should make it clear that you have your life to lead and it does not resolve around her.  Be willing to find a compromise to adjust your life to fit her in.  But don’t rearrange it to focus on another person.

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