lonely and desperate

There are a lot of things that lovers go through when they had a loving relationship breakup for whatever reason. Some people like to be left alone for sometime to reflect on the loss, but some other people go in the opposite direction. They are the ones that seek comfort in someone else as soon as they can. That is their way of healing, and it does not mean that they did not care about or are not morning the loss of the last relationship. When you are dating someone after a breakup, either yours or theirs, you want to know if you are in a rebound relationship or not.

You probably think that rebound relationship as one that starts after a long term one fails. That is mostly true, but not all of them are going to end abruptly. However, most of them do. What happens is that someone goes for the opposite of the person they were just with in the hopes that this will help them forget and heal faster. It never works, but that is usually what they are attempting to do. If they are not the ones that wanted to end the relationship, they may go into a rebound relationship with someone who remind them of the person they just lost.

Because of this, rebound relationships are often based on things that do not make for a long term relationship. If you leap into a relationship with some to feel needed and loved, even though you haven’t let go of the one you just ended, you are probably not seeing that person for who they really are. Big problems can happen in such a rebound relationship. One of the biggest is that they end up talking endlessly about the relationship that just ended, and the other person is left to feel that they are not over that other person. If that happens, they are exactly right and the relationship ends.

If you think that you are in a rebound relationship with someone, ask yourself a few questions. Have you jumped to fast? If you are trying to get really close to the other really quickly, you could be setting yourself up to get hurt. Eventually, they are going to get spooked. If your new romance is always mentioning their ex, you should get real and realize that this could go on for a some time. You have to decide if you can pull back a little and be more of a friend until the other person has healed. If not, you’re going to get your feelings hurt and heart busted into pieces. Make your choice accordingly.

Those people who leap from one lover to another, and have found themselves in a rebound relationship have to consider what they are doing. They should make double sure they are being real about getting out of something and not being over it. That can let someone else conclude if they are really up for a relationship that may not end well. There is a time when the feelings of others have to be more important then the need to find shelter in someone you know you are going to hurt.

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