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It is obvious that the way men and women approach relationship is different.  Nothing unusual there.  But it is useful relationship intelligence to understand a bit more about how men and women are lined up towards intimacy. You can get info on Marriage Guidance here.

Men do not, as a general rule, innately understand some core skills around building intimacy.  They do not generally get much practice or put much attention on nurturing, empathizing, and focusing on the wants of others.

Yes, men know how to communicate in relationship, but the way in which we communicate is often different than females, it is usually oriented towards problem-solving (a form of winning), and establishing dominance (or avoiding it from others).

Men grow up to know a lot about winning and dominance and not much about connection and intimacy and love.  As a general rule, men may not know that much about how to empathize and connect and nurture others.

Growing up, boys play different games than girls.  Playing cowboys and Indians and playing army, boys learn about territory and dominance.  Nothing wrong with boys playing such games, it is actually good for them developmentally, but they don’t learn much about loving and empathizing and nurturing.  You can get more How To Get Love Relationship Advice here.

Girls played with dolls.  They played house.  They had imaginary tea parties.  These are games of nurturing and socializing.  Girls actually learn and play at intimacy growing up.  This is a powerful difference.  So given the different ways genders are socialized, when it comes to building intimacy, who has the most innate skill?

Is it men, who learned early to say “I shot you, you are dead!”  Or is it women, who learned early how to nurture and empathize and socialize? 

Here then is the point.  Men, recognize that you may need some help learning to nurture and empathize and connect with others, including your mate.  Women, don’t go around assuming your should know what to do when it comes to nurturing and loving.  You may have to gently guide them in the right direction.  Intimacy factors can be learned!  You can learn more about Get Your Love Back In Hours  here.

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