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There are lots of reasons that relationships break up.  Two of the three main reasons relationships break up are that you wronged your mate or they wronged you.  If you cheated on your ex or fought with them too much, you wronged them.  If they committed infidelity or were too controlling, for example, they wronged you.  You can learn more about getting your love back here. 

If, for example, your ex cheated on you or you cheated on them, there is a very important strategy you can use to get them back that can work in hours instead of weeks or months.  This strategy is called venting.  Venting is when you or someone else gets things off their chest.  What does this have to do with getting your ex back fast?

Because when you get dumped by your ex, it means that the good feelings they had for you are now replaced by negative feelings.  Anger, sadness, hurt, betrayal now take the place of happiness, pleasure, love and intimacy.  This is easy to understand.    But hardly anyone knows what to do about these negative feelings.  Sure, you can wait a month or six to see if time heals the wound, but what if you want your ex back in a day or a week?  Is there any way to speed up the process of healing those negative feelings?

One powerful way to resolve negative feelings is to vent them.  To let them go.  To get them off one’s chest.  So you can call you ex and ask them how what you did made them feel.  That’s a start.  Then you have to be quiet and let them start telling you, let them start venting.  You can get a complete system for Get Your Ex Back In Hours here that goes into detail.

Look at it like a balloon filling with the hot air of negative feelings.  You want to prick the balloon by inviting your ex to vent.  It’s not hard, but it takes a bit of practice.  You want to make them feel heard and understood.  You don’t argue or explain or defend yourself.

You use this same method in reverse if your ex wronged you in some way.  If they committed infidelity and you kicked them but want them back, you need to clear or vent your negative feelings over what they did.  You need to let go of those feelings before you can really trust them some again.  You do this by asking them to just listen to you and not explain or justify while you talk.

There is a lot more detail available on how to use venting to get your ex back fast, but we all know how good it feels sometimes to get things off our chest.  After a bad day a work, you’ve probably vented to a friend over a beer and felt better.

Using the tool of venting to get your ex back, along with a few others, can allow you to clear the air and resolve your issues much more quickly.  Instead of waiting months hoping they get over it, you can usually get them back starting in just hours from now.  You can get a free course on Love Advice here.

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