lonely and desperate

All’s fair in love and war.What can that saying really be saying?  Are they saying there is a similarity between the two?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.  It may still be love between the two but they are at each other like it is war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.  A once loving couple is now fighting constantly.It is my main purpose is to be able to bring peace between the couple.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.

So what are the signs of trouble?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.Or should it be said lack of any communication.For practically all relationships, knowing how to communicate is essential.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.it is a sign trying to let you know trouble is starting.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or  marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.  After all if you can’t communicate, every little thing can become a big problem.Being able to communicate effectively helps to prevent that.

So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.  One of the biggest keys to communication is listening.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking.But truthfully if you are unable to listen very well, you won’t really be able to understand each other.  So by helping the couple listen better their communication improves greatly.

By being able to spot this sign, a couple will be able to better know that trouble may be starting.  If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them.But if you don’t spot that sign early, the prime way to solve the problem is to learn how to communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.

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