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What causes a few romantic relationships to become dysfunctional? Often times the answer is clear. But there are plenty of reasons.

There are a great deal of people who continue in a dysfunctional relationship, or start a new relationship, for all the wrong reasons. Some people simply refuse to see even when there are signs that things are going wrong. Some might know what is happening but decide to ignore the problem in order to just have it go away. Also, a number of people have been in a negative situation for so long that they lose the ability to know how to remove themselves from it.

Some people are convinced that they will never be happy until they locate their Mr. or Mrs. Right. It may not always be true, but some people believe that if you’re alone, you’re also lonely. It is the real fact that many people who have others around them are still alone. This is typically the case for people who chose to stay in relationships with a lot of negative factors. You won’t necessarily be happy just because you’re in a relationship. Evidence of this is indicated by the statistics representing domestic violence and abuse cases.

Sharing is important in a good relationship and a bad one tends to be where one person is making all the decisions.  A relationship that exists with one party dominating and controlling everything is a bad situation for the other party. While many women associate jealousy with love, this is especially true of younger, less experienced ones. Even though an individual will offer protection to somebody they love, an individual’s got to inquire as to whether that’s actually what’s occurring at any point in time.

Some men will show their control by handling  the woman’s situations for them . It usually comes across as worrying about her state of health. This is something that get out of control, which can ultimately make it so a woman does not feel she is controlling her life. A lot of the time, abusive males begin as knights in shining armor. And keep in mind that if something seems to be too good to be real, it probably isn’t real.

Odd and funny behavior must be noticed early on and must never be tolerated in any relationship if it has to stay healthy. Abuse of any kind - be it physical, emotional, sexual, or substance abuse - is never acceptable and should not be put up with. A pattern of endless apologies and insisting that this will be the last time will come from the abuser, leading to  a potentially serious situation. Before deciding to save the relationship, you should always insist that your partner seek help first.

Relationships that are not healthy have many apologies and promises. If things that are committed to are not done, and without apologies, then this is an area of concern. You are the point where you need to decide whether to continue on or not. A relationship with your significant other will gradually lead to a long-term commitment involving marriage and a family. The dysfunction will only get worse and feel more and more like a trap the longer one stays and the more people get involved in the situation.

Despite the wonder of women who are selfless in their devotion, it is equally important that they take care of their own needs as well. It’s only at this time that they’ll see themselves not having to inquire as to the reason that a few romances result in relationships that don’t work out.

If you find this interesting, you can read more about my practice as an family law lawyer in Austin. You can also get a free copy of our Austin TX Divorce Guide CD at www.TruslerLegal.com. If you haven’t found the information you need, you can see our FAQ’s about divorce in Austin TX.

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